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16 Things I Learned in 2016


It's almost the end of January, so I feel that this post may be a little late, but I've been spending a lot of time reflecting on the lessons I learned in the whirlwind year that was 2016. Some of them were lessons I never wanted to learn, and others I welcomed with open arms. 2016 was a huge year for me, a year of transitions, of uphill battles, and also a year of acceptance and goodbyes.

If you'd like more lessons, check out the things I learned in 2015!

Here are some of the things 2016 made abundantly clear to me:

1. If you find something you're good at or passionate about, find a way to pursue it wholeheartedly.

2. "Five year plans" are a joke. The universe will laugh at you. Learn to laugh at you too.

3. Absolutely nothing is permanent. Even tattoos fade.

4. People change. Not always for the better. But sometimes that turns out for the best.

5. Trust your gut. It's the voice of reason between your doubtful head and hopeful heart.

6. You can never force something to work out. If it's meant to, it will.

7. If someone asks where the best thrift stores are, don't tell them. Some information should be exclusive.

8. No one is ever too cool to have a good time. People that think they are are just a drag.

9. If you spread yourself too thin, you'll inevitably crack under pressure.

10. When things happen, they often happen all at once.

11. Know when to ask for help, even when it's hard.

12. Moisturizer is SO important. Use it.

13. Gold and silver glitter are definitely neutrals (they go with everything) and anyone that tries to tell you otherwise is a hater.

14. Remember that nobody has it all figured out, some people are just better at pretending they do. Things are less intimidating when you look at it that way.

15. A good hug can solve a lot of things.

16. Embrace the weird. It's more fun that way.

What did you learn in 2016?

Bedroom Update with NewSleep

Since starting my new job, I've realized just how important it is to keep my bedroom as a peaceful oasis for myself. I've recently reorganized my space, decluttered, and prioritized comfort above all things in my room. When the lovely folks at NewSleep reached out to me about their mattress selection, I knew it would be a match made in heaven. For years I'd been sleeping on a rickety old mattress with springs that poked out willy nilly and a memory foam topper that had seen much better days. Since the average human spends about a third of their life sleeping, I knew I totally needed an upgrade.

With help from NewSleep, I learned all about the mattress choosing and ordering processes. There's a handy quiz you can take, as well as detailed descriptions for each type of mattress. Since I wanted something soft but still firm with a lot of cushion, I picked the Jerome mattress. My order arrived to me in just a few days, and I couldn't wait to get it unboxed and try it out!

Since the mattress comes rolled up and vacuum sealed, you've gotta do a bit of work to get it open, but it felt like Christmas morning! As soon as I got the wrap off, the mattress started to come to life. I thought it was pretty cool how they fit such a big mattress in a comparatively small box.

After getting it out of the packaging, I let it sit out for a few hours so it could breathe and get back to its original size. I used that time to go get some new sheets and pillows so I could enjoy my new bed to the fullest! 

The Jerome mattress is so much thicker, more supportive, and exponentially more comfortable than my old mattress. I couldn't wait to get all snuggled up with a good book and have an awesome night's sleep. A few weeks later and I'm still so excited to get to bed and unwind after a long day.

If you'd like to get your own NewSleep mattress, use code REDLIPSTICK for 10% off your purchase!

When was the last time you got a new mattress?

Watched, Wanted, Worn // January

Hey friends! Hope your 2017 is going well! I've jumped headfirst into a new job, have been going my usual mid-January declutter extravaganza, and have been semi-intentionally taking a break from the internet while all the dust settles. Still recuperating from 2016 a little, but I've been drinking a lot of tea, reading, and taking time (when I have it) to relax. I thought it was about time to debut a new little series here on WiRL, one that I'd like to call "Watched, Wanted, Worn" which is pretty self explanatory. Things I've been watching, wanting, and wearing!

Watched:

La La Land. Y'all, this movie! I have never been a big fan of musicals, but I was SO into La La Land. Maybe it was Ryan Gosling, maybe it was the old Hollywood vibe, maybe it was the tap-dancing numbers or the John Legend cameo, but I adored this film. It's funny, emotional, visually stunning. It checked all the boxes for me, and I will definitely be grabbing it when it comes out on DVD.

Garfunkel and Oates. I've seen this series a few times through, and I'm so sad there weren't more seasons! I think the characters are just the right mix of quirky and relatable, and their songs about dating and adult life hit really close to home. Definitely worth a watch if you're into girl bands and / or comedy. Check it out on Netflix!

Mr. Kate. My YouTube subscription feed is full of interior design channels lately, like Mary Elizabeth, and my most recent favorite, Mr. Kate. I think she's really fun and adapts to each of her clients' style preferences seamlessly. I'd love for her to come redecorate my space, now just to get famous enough or earn enough coin to do so!

Wanted:

Midcentury brass candlesticks. Bless my roommates for putting up with me this month because I have been OBSESSING over a pair of candlesticks that I found on Etsy. I kept them in my cart for ages, just staring at them, but the moment I tried to purchase them, they sold out. Cue the sad music. Similar ones on eBay are selling for close to $100. I missed the deal of a lifetime.

A letterboard. I've needed to give myself multiple pep talks in the past few weeks so I think a letterboard would be a perfect addition to my room. I can change it up to be something really meaningful or something just kinda funny.

Matching pajama sets. There's just something about pjs that come in a matching set that make them feel just that much more comfy. I've definitely fallen into the "big T shirts as pajamas" trap in the past and I've had enough! I'm a grown ass lady. I need more cute pajamas, like yesterday.


Worn:

Olive green military jacket. I've been living in this thing lately since it's been unseasonably warm for winter. I'm also really bad at dressing for the appropriate season (can't it just be fall year round?) and dressing for summer especially. I'm already dreading 90 degree temperatures and will be sad the day I have to return this jacket to its place in the closet.

Little red Coach bag. I was sent this little red bag from Coach earlier this year and I have been obsessed ever since. It's absolutely stunning quality, a beautiful color, and the perfect size for all my daily needs.

Smith's Rosebud Salve. This stuff is a GODSEND for the winter months. It smells good, it moisturizes well, and it has pretty packaging. There are other flavors and varieties if rose isn't your thing too! What more could you need?!


What have you been watching, wanting, and wearing lately?

10 Goals for 2017

2016 was a doozy. I think pretty much everyone can agree on that. It was a bizarre, hilariously exhausting rollercoaster of a year, though not without its good points. In 2016 I graduated college, moved in with one of the coolest people on earth, made new friendships and grew existing ones. 2016 tested me in ways I never knew it could, and for the most part I made it out stronger and more prepared to roll with the punches than ever. What's that saying about rough waters making a skilled sailor? I'm not sure exactly, but it totally applies.

2016 was the "it is what it is" year for me. A year of goodbyes. A year of acceptance.
2017 will hopefully be the year of moving on to even better and brighter things.

That being said, and dramatic monologue aside, I'd like to discuss some 2017 goals. Compared to last year's goals these are pretty similar, but hey! Progress is progress.

1. Read one book a month.
I set this as a goal pretty much every year, and every year it seems to slip by me. Now that I'm no longer wrapped up in reading for classes and swirling about with papers due seemingly every 15 minutes, maybe I'll have some time to tackle that to-read list. Got any suggestions?

2. Establish a daily routine for productivity.
You know what would be nice? Eating breakfast. Waking up on time. Being an actual functioning human for more than a week at a time! A routine sounds lovely. Now how do I get one of those?

3. Take a trip to NYC. 
I've been dying to visit NYC again since I got back from my last trip (years ago!) and there's some really cool people I've been wanting to see, and museums, and shopping! There's just something about the big apple.

4. Take a trip to Toronto.
I've been bugging my roommate that I need to go try Tim Hortons and buy some maple syrup but honestly I just want to see the city! Time to get that passport renewed!

5. Continue to grow Red Lip Collective.
This year was an awesome start for my little business, and I can't wait to see how far I can take it in 2017! I've got some great new pin ideas, and I want to branch out a little with products. Hopefully it will be a hit!

6. Find a blogging schedule that works for me.
I'm sure this has graced every blogger's list at some point, but 2016 threw a wrench in my blogging schedule for sure. Busy times! Hopefully having a more consistent schedule overall will allow for more time to actually blog! Wouldn't that be nice?

7. Simplify.
With minimalism being such a "trend" (and a good one at that) in 2016 it's been making a lot of people think about their possessions with intention. I want to make an even more conscious effort to cut the superfluous out of my life. To seek clarity and quality in all things.

8. Explore my music and movie tastes.
College really put a damper on my music listening and movie watching, and it's time to change that! I want to put aside a little bit of time to discover new music (I just bought one of these!) and actually spend some evenings to tackle my ever-growing Netflix list!

9. Focus on gratitude, creativity, and beauty in the little things.
I think it's really important to take time to feel grounded and to really reflect on our blessings and the beauty in our lives. Often times things are too busy and we focus on the next item on our to do list, or the sad things, or our bank accounts. I want to spend more time with my family, admire more art, drink more tea, and get out in nature whenever I can.

10. Be supportive.
When I look around at my peers (bloggers, friends, small business owners, etc) I see so many bright and talented beings, and I want to bolster that as much as humanly possible. Whether it be attending a nearby comedy or open-mic night, dining and shopping locally, making a purchase from a rad etsy store, or simply tweeting positive vibes to someone, I want to make 2017 a year of supporting and encouraging others.

What are your 2017 resolutions?