It's a saying as old as time, every Blair needs her Serena, and every Carrie needs her Samantha, Charlotte, and Miranda. Just like every blogger needs her blogging BFF.
I first started reaching out to bloggers I admired all the way back in 2012 when I emailed back and forth with Ayden of Little Blog of Horrors. We sent each other sweet little pen pal packages, and have remained Facebook friends ever since. Not long after that I met Hayley from Water Painted Dreams, also from Scotland. It's been such a treat to be able to keep up with such lovely people's lives from halfway across the world, and it's nice to know there's someone who may want to grab coffee with me if ever I happen to hop across the pond to Europe.
A little closer to home, I met Caelan, who hails from Hawaii but moved to NYC a few years ago. She and I have plans to take both DC and Brooklyn by storm someday soon. Through Caelan I met Sophie of Nana Wintour, who shares my love of Miranda Sings and gummy candies. I hope to visit New Zealand to meet her, as soon as I get my passport renewed and save up for that bear of a plane ticket!
As for having met in real life, just this week I had a girl's day with Kate of Lucky Bandit. After texting pretty much every day for almost a year, we decided to take the plunge and meet each other for real. Going in, it felt kind of like a blind date, but once we officially met it was like we were old pals! You can check out a recap of our day on Kate's blog here.
You see, blogging is this awesome community with thousands of people from all over the world, but sometimes this crowded room can feel a bit lonely. That's why blogging friends are such an invaluable resource. Someone you can text when you're feeling self-conscious about that personal post, someone that can brainstorm with you, and someone that will click your affiliate link no matter what. (This one's a joke, but it is a perk, I can't deny that.)
If my personal experience isn't enough to sell you on bloggy friends, here are 10 more reasons:
1. They won't judge you for needing to get the perfect photo.
Non-blogging friends don't always get it. Sometimes I feel rushed when I need to take that 5th or 20th photo of my shoes or my salad or my coffee cup. Bloggers understand. Quality photos matter, and they know why you're being a perfectionist.
2. They're supportive.
Sure, from the blogging world or not, friends are supposed to be supportive, but blog friends will share your post, or give you feedback, or tell you that outfit looks killer without even needing to be asked. They just know!
3. They're impartial.
Blogger friends are the perfect people to talk to about things going on in your real life, because more often than not, they don't hang out in the exact same circles as you. With blogging friends there's (hopefully) less of a chance for drama. Though they're not your personal therapist, they're a good shoulder to lean on when you need advice, even if it's about a life decision rather than a way to get more page views.
4. They'll help you take outfit photos.
Need I say more?
5. They understand blogger lingo.
I can't tell you how many times I've talked to non-bloggers about blogging, and they just gave me the slow blink. Being able to talk to someone about SEO and engagement, and having them actually add to the conversation is rare and extremely valuable.
6. They're in on the gossip.
Like you, they read blogs too, and chances are, they may also read forums. Though I don't contribute, I do keep up with sites like GOMI, just because. It's shameful, but it's a guilty pleasure, and there are always tidbits to talk about and learn from. Plus, with a blogging friend, there's always an extra eye out for your name on those troll sites.
7. A blogging friend is a real friend.
Someone you look out for, give advice to, keep in touch with, and check in on. Blogging relationships aren't just for business gain, they can really be meaningful. You may even meet your best friend.
8. You can network together.
If you're lucky enough to live near your Blogging BFF, you can go to PR events with them. Regardless of location, you can work together to make new opportunities and meet new people!
9. They can help with constructive criticism.
Every once in a while I feel like overhauling my layout, coming up with new features, or deciding to change certain things about my blog. My blogging friends have my back at let me know when something is good or something is just not working.
10. They're just rad.
Making friends is always a good thing. As long as you remain honest and genuine with each other, good things are bound to come to both of you. I'm proud to say the friends I've made through blogging are some of the most supportive, kind, and creative people I've had the privilege of knowing!
Want to be friends? Send me an email // firstname.lastname@example.org
// or hit me up on twitter! @jssbckly My inbox is always open!